Brian and Chad approach the issue of questions from a different angle. What are some questions you should NEVER ask?

• Looking to the past - What have you got so far? What have you tried so far?
• Prescriptive - Have you ever thought about...
• Judged - Why did you do that? How stupid are you? Really? 
• Collecting information already discovered - Have you thought about anything that you could do about that?
• Bad timing - What could you do about that? (at the beginning) What about this is really important? (at the end)

Travis Guse is a certified strength coach. Travis talks about how his journey came through strengths and how he uses strengths in his coaching. You can find out more about Travis at www.strengthssolutions.org.

Chad and Brian talk about the difficulty of 2020 due to both COVID and the shift into a Digital world. They also share some highlights from CAM 2020 year.

Reggie McNeal identifies four sources of Pastoral Exhaustion that is rampant during this COVID season, along with several prescriptions to renew one's health.

Brian and Chad discuss building accountability for a client based on their Myers-Briggs Temperament, specifically the last letter, P&J. Ps enjoy flexibility, while Js desire some rigidity.

Rev Laura Stephens Reed has a coaching practice that focuses on helping churches find the right minister. You will hear how Laura has built a framework for this practice that allows plenty of room for coaching. You will hear about how she focuses on the benefits of coaching rather than the process of coaching as she reaches out to potential clients.

http://www.searchingforthecalled.org

Framework coaching creates a way for the coach to bring some expertise into the coaching. This helps the coach create a healthy way to market coaching.

1. The framework comes out of listening to a number of clients in a particular niche.

2. The framework may suggest the topic for the client.

3. The framework may be linear or topical.

4. The framework does not provide the solution but creates awareness around an issue critical to the client's niche.

5. The framework provides a plethora of true statements that can be shared as appropriate.

6. Framework coaching makes it easier to attract clients.

Brian and Chad explore how framework coaching is being used in a few specific industries. They also examine the tension between framework coaching and formula coaching.

At the launch of their new E-Course, Frameworks for Successful Coaching, Brian and Chad walk through the five essential elements of a coaching framework.

https://coachapproachministries.org/framework

• What is the song behind the words that is keeping us all dancing? In other words, what deeper tune of the church is getting played in this circumstance? What is going on in this situation that nobody is talking about but is affecting the whole system of the church? - p 115
• I also often coach my pastor clients to give a yearly “I Have a Dream” sermon in order to keep raising the urgency in the congregation. - p 142
• As a coach to pastors, I am almost always in the role of confidant. - p 159
• I tell my coaching clients, “You must bring yourself to your role, but you are not your role.” - p 211
• I often coach my clients, “Make your goal in every conversation to have someone roll their eyes upward (which indicates that they are thinking differently) and say, ‘That’s a great question.’” - p 213

Brian and Chad talk about three deep shifts that pastoral leaders need to make to be effective. 

1. From casting blame to taking responsibility 
2. From Authority to Influence 
3. From Content to Collaboration

Marc Cortez is a Professor of Theology at Wheaton College and is a leading expert in theological anthropology, an area of theology that focuses on what Christians believe about human persons. He is particularly interested these days in the imago Dei, the idea that humans were created in the image of God and what that means for humanity.

"We see a growing lack of confidence in our ability to answer the question of essence, "What am I?" - Marc Cortez, Theological Anthropology: A Guide for the Perplexed.

Brian and Chad unpack emotional intelligence, a key skill for coaches. Emotional intelligence has four aspects - aware of your own emotions, managing your own emotions, aware of other people's emotions, and adapting how you show up.

This week, Brian interviews Rick Dunn, pastor the Fellowship Church in Knoxville, TN. Angie Ward, one of our favorite guests on the podcasts, told Brian that Rick Dunn is the one to talk about when it comes to adaptive leadership.

This week's podcast proves it. The concepts are so different from what we're used to hearing, it is difficult to even create an outline of this conversation. A few links from the conversation are below, but this is best enjoyed in just listening to the conversation. Enjoy. You can hear more of Rick on his podcast called Life Reframed.

Brian and Chad talk about a Coach Approach Preaching. This is a fascinating conversation about applying coaching competencies to another field. Specifically, Chad and Brian apply agreements, active listening and powerful questioning to preaching.

Linda Miller has been an Executive Coach for decades. She describes an Executive Coach as a deeply present thought partner, who models behaviors that leaders can use in their leadership.

She says there are three things a coach must do for the leaders.

1. Listen deeply
2. Give honest feedback
3. Challenge assumed constraints

Brian and Chad explore how framework coaching is being used in a few specific industries. They also examine the tension between framework coaching and formula coaching.

Brian and Chad explore the theology of coaching. They talk about the flourishing life that Jesus offers, the fact that humans are wholistic beings, and that Christians are missional people, attempting to join God where He is already working.

Quite often when a coaching relationship isn't working, you should revisit the agreements. Agreements are not a "set it and forget it" item. 

Here are a few agreements to consider:

• What the client should expect from the coach
• What the coach should expect from the client
• What the client should expect from the client
• What the coach should expect from the coach

Third party agreements should be given special consideration.

Brian and Chad discuss the GROW model for coaching and walk through each step. This is a deeper dive than you might have already taken.

1. Goals (Future)
2. Reality (Present)
3. Options (What's possible? Discerning)
4. Who, What, When, Will to do it (Designing Actions)

Brian interviews Evan Courtney, owner of Creative Courtney, a web design agency to find out what is essential for a coaching website.

Evan says the first thing to ask is "What do you want the visitor to do on your site?" Most likely, you want the visitor to take an action. Make it obvious what option you want the visitor to take.

Chad and Brian discuss self-differentiated leadership championed by Edwin Friedman in his book A Failure of Nerve.

The five aspects that Friedman says self-differentiates leaders are: